Reviving Sex Life During Menopause: 5 Key Tips to Boost Intimacy

Menopause can bring about changes in anything and everything, including affecting your sexual health, leading to a decrease in libido and discomfort during intimacy. This doesn't have to mean the end of a fulfilling sex life. With the right approach, you can reignite your passion and enjoy intimacy even more during menopause (shocker). This blog post offers five essential tips to help you revive your sex life, addressing both physical and emotional aspects that can enhance your connection and pleasure.

Communication is Key:

Open up conversations with your partner about the changes you're experiencing. Honest communication can help manage expectations and foster a deeper emotional connection, which is crucial for a satisfying sex life. If you don’t tell your partner what is going on, assumptions will be made, and that never works. It’s hard enough navigating everything else with menopause and only just feeling like it’s ok in humanity to talk about, so yes, break the taboo and chat about this too.

Explore Lubricants and Moisturisers:

Vaginal dryness is common during menopause and can make sex very uncomfortable as well as causing physical damage in some cases. Using lubricants and vaginal moisturisers can alleviate discomfort, making sexual activity more enjoyable and pain-free. Needing to use these things doesn’t mean that it’s not all working properly - it’s simply that we no longer produce all that we need ‘down there’.

Adjust Your Sexual Routine:

With changes in hormone levels, you might find that what used to excite you has changed. Be open to exploring new types of foreplay, different positions, or even new times of the day when your energy levels are at their peak. Sneaky lunchtime rendezvous anyone? Apart from the physical symptoms that impact us, we often have more insecurities about our body during menopause which adds another layer of complexity to this issue. Switching it up can really help with this.

Focus on Foreplay:

Increase the amount of time spent on foreplay to help stimulate natural lubrication and enhance desire. This is also a great time for more emotional connection, which plays a major role in everyone's sexual satisfaction. Sometimes it only being about the foreplay can also be amazing. We were often taught it’s all about the fireworks at the end, it’s not. Sex is so much more than that, and by the time we get to menopause we generally know which are the bits we really love, and for so many people, it’s the lead up, the foreplay where the magic happens.

Consult a Professional:

If changes in your libido are significantly impacting your life, it might be helpful to consult a healthcare professional. They can offer advice on hormone replacement therapy (HRT) or other treatments that can help manage menopause symptoms, including those affecting your sex life. Maybe it’s time to chat with a professional of another kind: talking to a therapist, a coach that specialises in menopause or even an intimacy coach might be just what you, or you & your partner need (often these things are great done together).

Bonus Tip:

Do anything and everything to help yourself feel sexy. Remember: Sexy is a mindset, not a waist size. If that means shopping for some fabulous lingerie, mood music, erotic fiction or a dirty weekend away,

Reviving your sex life during menopause is entirely possible and can lead to even better intimacy than before. By embracing open communication, exploring helpful products, and adapting to your changing lives, you and your partner can enjoy a vibrant sex life during menopause and beyond. This is time to really own your body and what you need - go for it!